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How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 (The How To Talk Series) Kindle Edition

4.7 4.7 out of 5 stars 9,636 ratings

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A must-have resource for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, the international mega-bestseller The Boston Globe dubbed “The Parenting Bible.”

For nearly forty years, parents have turned to
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele’s daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk’s powerful communication skills to parents of children ages two to seven.

Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents, teachers, and pediatricians. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and observations from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the children in your life.

What do you do with a little kid who…won’t brush her teeth…screams in his car seat…pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables…throws books in the library...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized by common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.

This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.
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More books in the bestselling How to Talk parenting series From tantrums to technology to talking to kids about tough topics, How To Talk When Kids Won’t Listen offers concrete strategies for these and many more difficult situations. The ultimate “parenting bible” (The Boston Globe)—a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child

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Parent and educator Faber, with educator King, picks up where esteemed mom Adele Faber (How To Talk So Kids Will Listen) left off with this updated "survival guide" for talking to little kids and gaining compliance. Her wisdom is in the same affectionate and funny style of mom: "Enough with all the talk about feelings. It's lovely to know we're enhancing our children's confidence…but we still have to get our kids to do things." Faber zeroes in on the most common (and irritating) things and tactics little ones employ, and provides caregivers with a clear and supportive path to holding their own. From tattling ("snitches and whistleblowers") to runaways ("kids who take off in the parking lot and other public places"), the authors describe exactly what life with little kids is like and make neither excuses nor pedagogical pronouncements; their advice is always supportive, appropriate, and ultimately best for the parking lot escapee in question. VERDICT Parents should not be put off by this volume's length. The "How To Talk" books are treasures to read. All libraries should acquire and recommend with gusto.—Julianne Smith, Ypsilanti District Library, MI

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"Yes, the How to Talk tools work for young children! It is never too soon to reflect children's emotions, acknowledge their wishes, and see things from their perspective. Faber and King are like wise, calm friends that arrive just in time to help you through the toughest moments, with no judging or shaming. In fact, they have just as much empathy for parents as they have for children. They understand that punishment and control are dead ends, and they offer a clear path towards cooperation and connection."--Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., author of Playful Parenting

"This helpful gem of a book guides parents and other caregivers to tune in to the internal worlds of young children to allow their minds to be seen and respected. With practical suggestions and useful illustrations, the authors clearly convey these important steps to guiding our children's development. Cultivating such mindsight for our youth is essential to creating a kinder and more resilient next generation."--
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. Author, Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human and Executive Director, Mindsight Institute

"Faber and King have done the impossible! This guide to how to talk so little kids will listen is BRILLIANT. Every parent needs to read this book because it teaches skills that are solidly based on research. The book is magnificent."--John Gottman, author of
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

“Relatable and authentic… [Faber’s and King’s] creative ideas will help parents feel they are not alone in dealing with little runaways, arguments over tooth brushing, tattling, and numerous child-rearing dilemmas.’”--
Publishers Weekly

"Wonderful...reader-friendly [and] a truly indispensable book for parents and for anyone else who interacts with young children.”--
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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B01CO348EO
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Scribner; Illustrated edition (January 10, 2017)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ January 10, 2017
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 18401 KB
  • Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 449 pages
  • Page numbers source ISBN ‏ : ‎ 150113163X
  • Customer Reviews:
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Customers find the content very helpful for learning and application purposes, with tools for letting out emotions safely. They also appreciate the easy readability, doable advice, and summary of each chapter into bullet points at the end. Readers describe the book as a great guide to communicating with children in a way that respects their feelings. They say it makes it fun to be a parent with great suggestions for validating feelings and overcoming communication issues. Customers also love the examples of real stories from parenting classes.

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A Better Way To Respond = Great Behavior!!
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When my kids, now 26 and 23 years old, were younger, I read “how to talk so kids Will listen and listen so kids will talk“.Now I am a nanny of a toddler, 2 1/2 years old, and a baby, Nine months old. This book has helped me to avoid the frequent arguments, meltdowns, jealousy, and throwing incidents that constantly occur with the 2 1/2 yr old.I was delighted when I learned that the authors are the daughters of the first book’s authors!! They have done an incredible job!! A must have book for every Nanny, Mom, Dad, Grandma & Grandpa!!!
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Reviewed in the United States on July 18, 2024
When I first received this book, I did a quick flip to a random page. I saw a short comic about “Tools for Resolving Conflict”. I enjoy reading but when the books are broken up by little quotes, different fonts or even comics, it makes my reading so much more enjoyable. I started reading it shortly after I received it. Like I said in my title, I’m on page 10 and I’m hooked! The way the author has worded things and given examples on what parents might say or kids might say really helps me absorb the information! I would highly recommend this book. Especially for parents with a strong willed child (like my 5 year old daughter). It’s worth the buy!!
Reviewed in the United States on May 31, 2024
I've only read chapter 1 so far but I like the vibe of the authors, and I'm hopeful it will help! I appreciate the approach to child rearing.
Reviewed in the United States on March 9, 2017
Ok, so I’ve been wanting to write a review for this book since I received it – when it first came out – but I can’t find it in my house. I think that my child took it and is reading it so that he can learn all our tricks. Haha. My child doesn’t actually read yet but I am lucky I did before it went missing because it has done no less than change my relationship with him.

How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen is full of great, doable advice that is general enough for any situation, but with specific examples so that you know exactly what the authors are trying to explain. The real-life examples could easily have come from my family. For example, the child who wants something that fell into a crack in his car seat and it is inaccessible to him and to me, the driver. Joanna and Julie give great advice on how to respond to difficult situations with little kids that could easily cause a major meltdown.

For example, when the thing falls into the crack in the car seat and I can’t reach it, in the past my child would start yelling and screaming and then move into a full-on tantrum. I always felt that I had two choices:
1: I could pull over and stop, get out of the car, open the door where his car seat is, and retrieve the thing. That would stop the tantrum before it starts, but it would teach him that he is welcome to have his way whenever he threatens me with a tantrum.
Or, 2: I could not get the thing, tell him to live with it for the 10 minutes (or whatever) until we get to where we are going. That response would surely invite crying escalating, into a full-on, inconsolable tantrum as the ride went on. I would have to listen to the screaming for the whole ride and then deal with it when we got to where we are going.

Julie and Joanna suggest a great third response: agree with my child that the thing is really important. Tell him that I wish I could reach the car seat to retrieve it. Then really get dramatic with it: talk about having a button on the dashboard that I could just push and a hundred of those things would magically appear! And then ask what we could do with a hundred of those things, until my child is so caught up in the fantasy that he has forgotten how much he wants the thing and we get to where we are going safe, sound, and happy. I’ve actually had to do this a number of times since reading the book. My child’s response still amazes me every time!

It sounds like magic, but it’s not. It is a way of listening to your child and validating his/her experience. How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen gives lots of ideas, stories and examples of how to do this in any number of difficult situations. I do want to be clear, this isn’t magic, and sometimes even the best skills don’t produce sunny results. But more often than not, as a result of the skills I was able to pick up from this book, I can at least head off tantrums and other bad behavior before it starts, even if my child isn’t all smiles.
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Reviewed in the United States on February 1, 2024
So my first impression of this book was negative. But upon further reflection I do see the value in this, especially with younger children or delayed children who have trouble navigating conflict. I like how this book helps us to teach and model problem solving in lieu of the knee jerk reaction of remedial punishment. It is a discipline that will grow parents and educate children. Remedial punishment should be a last resort, and hopefully one that can be avoided. Problem solving is a valuable life skill, and I know that when I see other parents use 'clever' ways to help their child work their way through conflict, I look on with admiration. There is no resentment, there is listening, there is communication, and then there are the tools put in place on how to handle the difficulty in the future. All good things!
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Reviewed in the United States on March 22, 2024
This book is an easy and approachable read. A lot of the lessons might sound familiar but the authors do a great job of using examples and being very clear. This book is relatable and accessible and I truly recommend this to parents. I follow plenty of parents and psychologists on instagram but this book takes it to another level that is very helpful.
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Reviewed in the United States on April 27, 2024
This book is amazing these women know what they are talking about!!! Such a wonderful insight! Can’t wait to put what I learned into practice.
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Reviewed in the United States on November 25, 2020
I read the long and detailed developmental book which let me know my kids are all "normal" as far as "normal" can be. The problem was that sometimes they got in trouble-- like a lot-- at school or daycare. I needed something to help me get across to them the morale code I wanted them to learn. I was really worried at times.

So this book did help me with strategies to talk to the children so they would listen. It was a little repetitive, but if you get over the fact that the core strategies repeat, there is a HUGE amount of examples that let you see each of those strategies from different parental viewpoints, different ages of the kids, different amount of kids in the family, boys & girls, and different combinations of all that and in between. It gives a multitude of examples of these strategies for different real life issues as well: going to the grocery store, potty training, sibling rivalry, kids "on the spectrum" (autism, adhd, etc...), from toddlers all the way to pre-teens.

I can catch myself taking a big breath when I catch myself getting upset/mad, and using that looonnnggg deep breath to come up with a quick strategy, starting from the first step, all the way to problem solving. Taking a sip of coffee or water would in theory work too. No one expects you to talk while you are taking a big breath or drinking.

I'm still no expert, but I'm practicing the skills and we have seen a huge improvement in the kids. It's a marathon, not a sprint, but you can see immediate improvements by starting to utilize these tricks/strategies. Good luck. I highly recommend the book, albeit its a long one. It is designed so that once you get past the core ideas, you can skip around according to the index chapters.

-Husband and father of 3.
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Reviewed in the United States on July 22, 2024
Excellent book with useful tips for parents and teachers!

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Evelyn
5.0 out of 5 stars Very useful
Reviewed in Canada on March 20, 2024
Very helpful! I love that it gives you sentences to say to your child. I didn’t find it natural to use this truthful advices, so at the beginning, I would write down sentences to say in situations that we struggled on regular basis, on a piece of paper. And literally read it out loud to my child for my brain to change it’s pattern in my responses. And I always got my child’s attention because I was reading something
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Violeta
5.0 out of 5 stars Excelente livro de educação
Reviewed in Spain on August 7, 2024
Livro muito útil, muito prático, que ajuda efectivamente a lidar com crianças pequenas no dia a dia.
Shathish Kumar
5.0 out of 5 stars Life changing book!
Reviewed in India on July 10, 2024
This book is life changing! Not only it gives you valuable tools to mitigate daily parenting needs, but your can also apply these techniques to adults too. As an introvert I always struggled to speak with people, but this book has given me some useful tools which are really life changing for me. I thank the authors for writing such a wonderful book. I'm planning to buy the rest of the books in the "How to talk" series.
Davorin
5.0 out of 5 stars Helpful
Reviewed in Germany on March 27, 2024
Easy to read, helpful advice.
Hannah
5.0 out of 5 stars A brilliant book with lots of practical advice!
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on February 15, 2024
This book was so helpful for my 5 and 8 year olds. I'd been meaning to read it for ages and am so glad I finally have. I've already tried out many of the suggestions and they completely work. A brilliant book and essential reading for all parents!

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